This concept “What do your children see” can be applied to so many areas of our lives.
Today I want to apply it to marriage.
What do your children see? Or better yet, ask yourself this question…
What will my children remember as adults when they look back on their childhood?
Everyone does it. Everyone looks back on how they were raised and with memories of how their parents were “so in love” or “not.” What will your children remember?
Do they see a marriage where there is mutual respect and an effort by both parents to “work” at their marriage? DO they see two people who made the CHOICE to love and forgive when times were tough?
Or do they see marital laziness?
Would they say you took each other for granted? Do they see their parents choosing to give up?
Do your kids see you choosing to be on the same team and building one another up?
This brings up a huge topic of focus: respecting our husbands in front of our children.
I have to confess something to you. I had sinned against my husband and God by speaking harshly and disrespectfully to my husband, in front of my children! When we were a younger married couple I spoke without really thinking of the ramifications first. I think we all have.
I realizing later what I said was disrespectful, but in all honesty I lacked self control over my tongue simply because I wanted justice–emotional marital justice!
The funny thing was that in hindsight, I still didn’t get that. Instead I heaped a mound of guilt on myself, built a wall between my husband and myself and allowed my selfishness to divide us.
Another mistake I caught myself in many times, and still struggle with every now and again is mumbling or thinking not so nice thoughts about my husband while I am working physically hard around the home cleaning. Have you ever done that?
Do your children hear you mumbling frustrations about your spouse as you go about your household work? Or do they see you delighting in all you “get” to do?
Sisters, I beg you to hear me on this one. Don’t take your husbands for granted! Be thankful God has blessed you with a partner for life! And tell him you are thankful for him.
Give him a compliment. Search for those things you are thankful for and verbalize them. You will be amazed by how it awakens a new spirit within your marriage.
Choose Today To Make the Effort!
Leave a Legacy of a Thriving Marriage!
I believe 100% that, aside from faith, a Healthy, Vibrant, Purposeful, Strong Marriage that exemplifies Unity and Team Work is the BEST gift you could ever give a child. It is the Best Legacy you could ever leave!